Comments on: Replacing Defense Mechanisms (and Other Anxiety Quirks) http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/11/06/replacing-defense-mechanisms-and-other-anxiety-quarks/ An Exploration into Social Anxiety Sun, 13 Jun 2010 05:14:32 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Aaron http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/11/06/replacing-defense-mechanisms-and-other-anxiety-quarks/comment-page-1/#comment-1356 Aaron Wed, 06 Dec 2006 23:34:18 +0000 http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/10/29/replacing-defense-mechanisms-and-other-anxiety-quarks/#comment-1356 I've been meaning to comment here. Mostly just to thank you because this post came at a good time for me. I'd gotten trapped in trying to essentially kill all my bad patterns at once and it made me more anxious than ever. Now, I've realized it's more than okay to leave some quirks in place while I slowly go about the work of dealing with SAD. So, thanks once more. I’ve been meaning to comment here. Mostly just to thank you because this post came at a good time for me. I’d gotten trapped in trying to essentially kill all my bad patterns at once and it made me more anxious than ever. Now, I’ve realized it’s more than okay to leave some quirks in place while I slowly go about the work of dealing with SAD. So, thanks once more.

]]> By: Social Anxiety Blog http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/11/06/replacing-defense-mechanisms-and-other-anxiety-quarks/comment-page-1/#comment-1152 Social Anxiety Blog Tue, 07 Nov 2006 04:45:15 +0000 http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/10/29/replacing-defense-mechanisms-and-other-anxiety-quarks/#comment-1152 Hi Ryan, I agree with you, to try to block, stop or eliminate our social anxious thoughts or behaviors isn't going to help us at all. Anxiety sympthoms are the result of some kind of problem at the emotional level, for instance that tremendous fear we feel when interacting with others is the result (sympthom) of not being able to adquire adecuate social skills when we were kids, probably bad experiences we had in social situations back then: with our mother, father, some relative, etc. So as you mentioned we must work on our emotions, we must try to understand the purpose of them, we must find a reason for them and with that we must try to integrate better habits into our lifes. For example I have found that when I am anxious, writing is a good way to transform the anxiety feeling, I write about what I am feeling or about what I think is happening, that has helped me. Some other people could choose exercising, some others need to talk to some one about what they are feeling, etc. The point is, we must recognize our feelings, not avoid them... Peace. Hi Ryan,

I agree with you, to try to block, stop or eliminate our social anxious thoughts or behaviors isn’t going to help us at all.

Anxiety sympthoms are the result of some kind of problem at the emotional level, for instance that tremendous fear we feel when interacting with others is the result (sympthom) of not being able to adquire adecuate social skills when we were kids, probably bad experiences we had in social situations back then: with our mother, father, some relative, etc.

So as you mentioned we must work on our emotions, we must try to understand the purpose of them, we must find a reason for them and with that we must try to integrate better habits into our lifes.

For example I have found that when I am anxious, writing is a good way to transform the anxiety feeling, I write about what I am feeling or about what I think is happening, that has helped me. Some other people could choose exercising, some others need to talk to some one about what they are feeling, etc.

The point is, we must recognize our feelings, not avoid them…

Peace.

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