Comments on: Social Anxiety in a Public Job http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/ An Exploration into Social Anxiety Sun, 13 Jun 2010 05:14:32 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: csylcbo http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/comment-page-1/#comment-1502 csylcbo Sat, 23 Dec 2006 16:33:00 +0000 http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/#comment-1502 Hi all!!! Cool site!!! Hi all!!! Cool site!!!

]]> By: Anxious Living » Blog Archive » Existential Congruency and Social Anxiety http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/comment-page-1/#comment-514 Anxious Living » Blog Archive » Existential Congruency and Social Anxiety Mon, 11 Sep 2006 22:17:40 +0000 http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/#comment-514 [...] William’s post, “Social Anxiety in a Public Job“, reminded me of my own similar struggles with working in residence life, a profession involving a great deal of socializing. I responded in much the same way he did, which was to be an actor of sorts, and as with William it left me feeling very drained. It was even more pronounced as I could not easily separate the job and my personal life as the position of a residence hall director is not a 9-5 job, and for three out of the four years I lived right where I worked, in the hall. [...] [...] William’s post, “Social Anxiety in a Public Job“, reminded me of my own similar struggles with working in residence life, a profession involving a great deal of socializing. I responded in much the same way he did, which was to be an actor of sorts, and as with William it left me feeling very drained. It was even more pronounced as I could not easily separate the job and my personal life as the position of a residence hall director is not a 9-5 job, and for three out of the four years I lived right where I worked, in the hall. [...]

]]> By: Cynthia Blue http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/comment-page-1/#comment-70 Cynthia Blue Fri, 18 Aug 2006 17:02:22 +0000 http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/#comment-70 <blockquote>We need to respect our limits, but not accept them, and we need to acknowledge our successes, but not be satisfied with them.</blockquote> Oh my.. I might have to use that in my signature for my forums login. That is an awesome line... if you don't mind. I just blogged about standing up for myself, and being satisfied with successes relates. I used to think I should humbly be satisfied with all my successes and no longer push. But I love your words better. :) Anyway.. as to your blog. Wow, I'm impressed. I'm always impressed when someone with SA is able to work in the public. I worked in welfare for 9.5 years. I learned to grow some thick skin, and learned how to wear a mask too. But it was a lot of work. I prefer working with computers which I now do. However I still have to be out in the world to do things I love. And that is hard every step of the way. I admire you and your doing your work. Impresssive. :)

We need to respect our limits, but not accept them, and we need to acknowledge our successes, but not be satisfied with them.

Oh my.. I might have to use that in my signature for my forums login. That is an awesome line… if you don’t mind. I just blogged about standing up for myself, and being satisfied with successes relates. I used to think I should humbly be satisfied with all my successes and no longer push. But I love your words better. :)

Anyway.. as to your blog. Wow, I’m impressed. I’m always impressed when someone with SA is able to work in the public. I worked in welfare for 9.5 years. I learned to grow some thick skin, and learned how to wear a mask too. But it was a lot of work. I prefer working with computers which I now do. However I still have to be out in the world to do things I love. And that is hard every step of the way.

I admire you and your doing your work. Impresssive. :)

]]> By: William Harryman http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/comment-page-1/#comment-63 William Harryman Fri, 11 Aug 2006 00:23:04 +0000 http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/#comment-63 Hey Dreamer, Congrats on taking on the challenge -- it's hard work and there are bound to be mistakes. This is where Buddhism, especially the writings of Pema Chodron, help me a lot -- we make mistakes, all of us, and we can't be anything other than who we are RIGHT NOW, so we need to give ourselves a break. What you said at the end, <b>and respect to me, because after the last year, ha i deserve it</b>, is right on. We need to respect our limits, but not accept them, and we need to acknowledge our successes, but not be satisfied with them. I am only a guest blogger here, so I don't have access to your email address, but you can find me at <a href="http://integral-options.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Integral Options Cafe</a>. There's an "email me" button on the sidebar. Peace, Bill Hey Dreamer,

Congrats on taking on the challenge — it’s hard work and there are bound to be mistakes. This is where Buddhism, especially the writings of Pema Chodron, help me a lot — we make mistakes, all of us, and we can’t be anything other than who we are RIGHT NOW, so we need to give ourselves a break.

What you said at the end, and respect to me, because after the last year, ha i deserve it, is right on. We need to respect our limits, but not accept them, and we need to acknowledge our successes, but not be satisfied with them.

I am only a guest blogger here, so I don’t have access to your email address, but you can find me at Integral Options Cafe. There’s an “email me” button on the sidebar.

Peace,
Bill

]]> By: Dreamer http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/comment-page-1/#comment-60 Dreamer Tue, 08 Aug 2006 12:32:52 +0000 http://www.anxiousliving.com/2006/07/31/social-anxiety-in-a-public-job/#comment-60 dude, good stuff man, respect. great to see your handling your business.. and refuse to be a prisoner of your emotions im going through my own struggle.. ive tackeled what seems to be an entire social phobia in 2 to 3 years... its been a crazy trip. although there are still underlying issues. Not to mention i fucked up along the way.. ive took my emotional reconditiong to far im afraid and it flipped over to repression i was obsessed with not having emotional reactions to external events so im doing damage controll and opening it up again. anyway, right now im going through what seems to be.. the ''final layer'' the deep structure that connects all the stuff ive been battling. a severe highest priority avoidance of any situation with a potential negative scenario. but more so avoidance of exposing my true self (minus the masks) if that makes sense. its been a good 2 years and the last year has been crazy for me. RESPECT to you my friend, i think its awesome what your doing. and respect to me, because after the last year, ha i deserve it. if you ever wanna talk shoot me a line i filled in my real e-mail. keep it up , you got this. Dreamer dude, good stuff man, respect. great to see your handling your business.. and refuse to be a prisoner of your emotions

im going through my own struggle.. ive tackeled what seems to be an entire social phobia in 2 to 3 years… its been a crazy trip.

although there are still underlying issues.
Not to mention i fucked up along the way.. ive took my emotional reconditiong to far im afraid and it flipped over to repression i was obsessed with not having emotional reactions to external events so im doing damage controll and opening it up again.

anyway, right now im going through what seems to be.. the ”final layer”
the deep structure that connects all the stuff ive been battling.

a severe highest priority avoidance of any situation with a potential negative scenario.
but more so avoidance of exposing my true self (minus the masks) if that makes sense.

its been a good 2 years and the last year has been crazy for me.
RESPECT to you my friend, i think its awesome what your doing.

and respect to me, because after the last year, ha i deserve it.
if you ever wanna talk shoot me a line i filled in my real e-mail.
keep it up , you got this.

Dreamer

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